Daniela from Dreaming of Baby had a heart to heart with Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE, author of Feng Shui Mommy: Creating Balance and Harmony for Blissful Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood.

As a mom to two little ones, Bailey shares the knowledge she gained through her own experience of pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, as well as the stories and journeys she became a part of in her work as a Childbirth Preparation Educator and Birth Doula.

The Story behind Feng Shui Mommy: Creating Balance and Harmony for Blissful Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood.

Daniela GS:
Good morning Bailey and welcome! I’m looking forward to getting to know more about you and your book Feng Shui Mommy: Creating Balance and Harmony for Blissful Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood.

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
Good morning! Thanks so much Daniela. I look forward to diving in.

Daniela GS:
First off, how would you best describe your book?

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
It’s a holistic guide for women who want to feel informed and empowered to craft their own journey through pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood. The book supports the woman through all four trimesters (the fourth being the first three months of baby’s life outside of the womb) and has a mind, body, and spirit section in each trimester with chapters that help to nourish that aspect of her self. It’s also designed to help a woman regardless of what type of birth she will have – women who want an unmedicated birth, or need medications or a c-section are all supported in the book.

Daniela GS:
That’s quite a read – and very timely too. What led you to take this viewpoint on a subject that’s been widely written about?

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
I took this viewpoint because I was in need of a better way to move into, and then “be in”, motherhood and didn’t feel like there was anything out there that supported me. There were fabulous books on the market, but they were all very specific about the type of birth you should have. I wanted something that would give me the information, but then empower me to make my own choices, and feel good in those choices. The original idea for the book came to me when, one morning around 3 am, I was crying with my newborn son in my glider chair, having a new mom meltdown and something was poking my back – it was a lid-less blue gel pen that had been soaking into my glider chair. Yay. So I took the pen and a copy of Women Who Run With Wolves that was sitting next to me and scribbled random thoughts and ideas for Feng Shui Mommy in the back cover of the book, thinking, “If I had a wise woman sitting in front of me right now what would I want her to tell me about the journey into and through motherhood. I put those notes aside, but as I began working with pregnant women and new mothers as a childbirth preparation educator and birth doula I would show them these notes and ask their thoughts. They were always really enthusiastic and would ask if I had more, which I didn’t, so when my son was about 6 months old I began writing the proposal for the book and 3 years later it’s been born! Over the next two years I became obsessed with collecting stories, knowledge, and personal experiences that I would weave together to create the book – my second child in so many ways.

Empowerement in Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood

Daniela GS:
Impressive; what an emotional start to your second child! You speak about empowerment and for women to be able to make their own informed choices. From the stories you gathered, how does being empowered – and informed – affect the overall childbirth experience and those first few weeks with a newborn?

Intuition is commonly steamrolled during childbirth and motherhood, as people who claim to “know better” try to impose their opinions on the, often vulnerable, woman.

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
I think one of the most important components of the woman being empowered is that she knows that she has to honor and listen to her intuition during childbirth and throughout those first few weeks postpartum (and beyond!). As women hone the skill to listen to their intuition they usually fall in love with the peace of mind (and heart!) that comes from honoring this inner wisdom. This peace of mind comes from knowing that her intuition will almost always lead her to “right action” (which looks different for every individual). But unfortunately the intuition is commonly steamrolled during childbirth and motherhood, as people who claim to “know better” try to impose their opinions on the, often vulnerable, woman. By figuring out what actions and decisions intuitively feel best to her, as she embarks on her journey into motherhood she’ll have a much better chance of making choices that really resonate with her, and feeling empowered to advocate for these choices, thus setting her up for her optimal birth experience, and first steps into motherhood.

Daniela GS:
That is very insightful. With pregnancy, childbirth, and especially motherhood, balance is not always easy to achieve. What tips would you want to impart to moms and moms-to-be about attaining and retaining that delicate balance? Are mom meltdowns unavoidable in early parenthood?

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
A key part of balance is learning that we won’t always feel balanced – and knowing that’s OK (!) – as long as we know how to ease our way back into that state of balance, which also looks slightly different for everyone. Some of the key tips I offer in the book, regarding retaining that delicate balance, are deep breathing techniques (which are key: deep breathing is the first step to balance), relaxation recordings that can be used by the mom to reset her mind and emotions, a technique called EFT that uses a series of tapping on energy endpoints in her body to revitalize that energy, and simple techniques for nutrition and exercise, because balance is so much easier to find when our body is thriving. And yes, mommy meltdowns happen, but when we have strategies to get out of them (like a few deep breathes and some tears) we don’t have to get stuck in those meltdowns.

Daniela GS:
Truly enlightening, thank you. It’s also great to know that achieving balance is also possible in our own unique ways. A final question, what would be the number one take home message for moms and moms-to-be reading your book?

While birthing a baby is not a unique phenomenon, birthing your special baby is a once-in-a-lifetime occurrence that no one else in this Universe will experience; you deserve to treat it like the tailor-made and sacred experience it is.

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
I hope that women will take away from this book a knowingness that they deserve to claim their journey into motherhood and make it their own. And, the more they tune into their intuition the less chaotic and confusing their adventure into motherhood will be. Throughout the book, I urge the reader to absorb and practice the ideas and techniques that resonate with them, and let go of the rest. My goal is not for the reader to end the book set to birth “my way” but to have gained insight into what her way is; so, every reader will end this book with different take aways, many of which they likely came up with on their own, and I love that. For the Reader: While birthing a baby is not a unique phenomenon, birthing your special baby is a once-in-a-lifetime occurrence that no one else in this Universe will experience; you deserve to treat it like the tailor-made and sacred experience it is.

Daniela GS:
That is immensely beautiful. Thank you Bailey; I’ve truly enjoyed our conversation today. I wish you luck in your future endeavours and may more moms and moms-to-be be inspired to own their unique story. Thank you!

Bailey Gaddis, C.Ht, HBCE:
This was fun! And thank you as well!

 

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